Marriage Isn’t For You

Marriage Isn’t For You

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

 

I met my wife
in high academy when we were 15 times old. We were musketeers for ten times until until we decided no longer wanted to be just musketeers. I explosively recommend that stylish musketeers fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

 

 

Nonetheless, falling in love with my stylish friend didn’t help me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting wedded. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the further I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Marriage Isn’t For You

 

Father’s Advice

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

 

 

 

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Marriage Isn’t For You

Also, one cataclysmal night, I participated these studies and enterprises with my pater
.

maybe each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will noway forget.
My pater
giving his response to my enterprises was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “ Seth, you ’re being completely selfish. So I ’m going to make this really simple marriage is n’t for you. You do n’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone differently happy. further than that, your marriage is n’t for yourself, you ’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in- laws and all of that gibberish, but for your unborn children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to impact them? Marriage is n’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married. ”

It was in that veritably moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And allowing back on all the times I had seen her play with my whoresons, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to make our own family.

 

 

 

Marriage Isn’t For You

My father’s advice was both shocking and pregnant. It went against the grain of moment’s “ Walmart gospel ”, which is if it does n’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new bone
.

No, a true marriage( and true love) is noway about you. It’s about the person you love — their wants, their requirements, their expedients, and their dreams. egoism demands, “ What’s in it for me? ”, while Love asks, “ What can I give? ”

 

 

 

Marriage Isn’t for You: It’s for the One You Love

 

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